
The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and
proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair
fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally
blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed
away, making the move necessary.
After many hours of waiting patiently
in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was
ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual
description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on
her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old
having just been presented with a new puppy.
“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room …. just wait.”
“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is
something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t
depend on how the furniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind. I already
decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have
a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the
parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the
ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the
new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away, just for this time in my
life.”
She went on to explain, “Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what
you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in
the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank.
I am still depositing.”
And with a smile, she said: “Remember the five simple rules to be
happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less